From a really early age I recognised that most of the social systems I inhabited … or was expected to inhabit … required different versions of me to show up. So like many people I spent a lot of energy figuring out how to fit in … how to be what was expected … how to gain approval and acceptance … in variety of situations. Some of that process was beneficial inasmuch as I learned to survive in what seemed like a hostile world. I learned to read the energies of the field around me and interact appropriately. I became socially adjusted. But the learning that penetrated deep into my unconscious was that I was not good enough as I am. This is the “sub-text” of almost all social conditioning. It runs through our education systems and the career and employment structures available to… Read moreJust BEING

… and saying NO when I would love to say YES is one of the most internally destructive practices I ever engaged in. I still do it occasionally … but very occasionally these days. And I recognise the internal stress it sets up. I feel it in my heart centre. It happens when an old unconscious compliance programme kicks in. The energy field around my heart immediately tightens. I’ve learned to see this as a signal now. Mostly I’m able to take a step back and notice the choice I’m being offered. And, I mostly choose the option that relaxes my heart chakra. If I choose for something that I know my heart feels uncomfortable with, I do that consciously. Being conscious about my choices also relaxes my heart chakra, because I remain empowered in the process. I accept responsibility for the experience. This… Read moreSAYING YES WHEN I REALLY WANT TO SAY NO …